Many of us have a tendency to put our emotional well-being last in the long list of things on our To Do Lists. Proactive emotional self-care won’t necessarily stop sucky shite from happening, but I reckon it makes it easier to handle the jandal when it does...
Choose your own adventure, clearly. What does it for me might not be your bag, but here’s some of my fave self-love habits and for tuning into both the gentle subtle whispers & her raucous don't dare f*@k with me roars of your inner soul voice, who has (trust me on this one) ALWAYS got your back.
1 Journalling it out
2 Intentionally practising gratitude
3 Choosing self-compassion; be kind to yourself, always (sometimes easier said than done though, huh)
4 Meditating daily (even if it feels dumbass to begin with)
5 Convening with nature (even if it's just running around barefoot somewhere random)
6 Reading / listening / watching empowering things
7 Having a bloody good psychologist (here in New Zealand there maybe funding options, so don't be afraid to ask about this if $$ are an issue)
8 Moving thy body
9 Getting creative - with ANYTHING!
10 Clearing the clutter
11 Honouring the importance of sleep (and if you have trouble with this then let me know, I may be able to help)
12 Using essential oils for balancing moods & emotions (they have vibrations of their own)
13 Relaxing with people you love and enjoy, as well as alone
14 Letting yourself feel what you feel. Giving yourself permission without guilt, shame or any excuses why you shouldn't
15 Laughter! 'Cos FA beats that
16 Reminding thyself regularly to focus on what one wants, NOT on what one doesn’t want. Easiest trap in the world to fall into this one (I do it all the time).
17 Looking at thyself in the mirror and paying oneself a juicy compliment (fat day / bad hair day be damned) you are freaking GORGEOUS girlfriend, no matter what your inner critic says
18 Celebrating stuff! Even the small wins. Celebrating YOU!
19 Being willing to have uncomfortable but important conversations AKA being vulnerable & honest (this is SO hard, but pays off in spades)
20 Spreading kindness wherever, however.
Very few of these things cost any $$$$ at all, just commitment and a little time. I'm sure worth it so I know you are too.
Would love to hear your ideas too, of the things that help you, ‘cos sharing is caring absolutely xx